Another Year Over

I can’t believe another year has come and gone. This last year felt like the fastest year ever! I am grateful for all the learnings I have obtained over these last twelve months and I will share some of the obvoius ones with you….ready set go!

First and foremost honor yourself. Listen to your intuition and follow it. It will save you.

 

Pleasure gets boring and relationships get old, you need to choose to be grateful or you won’t remain faithful (Ashton Kutcher is an example).

 

No one is better than another. I don’t care if you are a celebrity or homeless, we are all the same with the same worth to our existence.

 

Forgive yourself every day!

 

When someone tells you who they are believe them the first time.

 

What you believe affects your reality, if your feeling in a funk change your perception up!

 

If you want to feel loved, go love somebody.

 

Control is an illusion.

 

Not all relationships last, and sometimes you just need to cut someone out of your life.

 

Surround yourself with good, loving, supportive people who believe in you.

 

If you want to feel good produce something. Be creative, we are meant to create.

 

Acceptance is the path to peace.

 

Forgiveness is the key to freedom. You want to witness a miracle forgive someone who have held a grudge against.

 

A snake is a snake, don’t be surprised when a snake bites you, that is what snakes do.

 

Express yourself authentically, and you will see, how magically life can be!

 

Follow your passion or interest whatever it is, this is the secret to happiness.

 

Sleep well, a good night’s rest means your day will be blessed.

 

Don’t bite the hand that feeds you or betray the one that loves you.

 

Most of all have fun and laugh at yourself. This next year begins tomorrow and you are in for a treat…I have all sorts of goodies in store for you so get ready!

 

 

Sense of Entitlement

We have all seen some spoiled kid throwing a tantrum. No one likes having to deal with these kids with their disgusting sense of entitlement. That’s exactly why they act like they do…in their mind they believe they need to have, or deserve to have whatever they are wigging out about. They are entitled to it. It is their right; it is theirs so give it to them!

How many of you act this way towards God?

How many of you are spoiled children demanding something you believe should be yours?

How many of you are being destroyed by your belief of entitlement? Letting it spoil you, rot you from the inside.

God owes you nothing. The gift has already been given…it’s called life. Each of us has already received our present when we came here, received our bodies and the experience to live on Earth. Now it is up to you to make the most of your gift. So take a deep breath, realize the gift is yours and begin to use it. Be grateful and live your life.

Honor One Another

I bet most of you were taught by your parents the golden rule…to treat others how you want to be treated, or otherwise known as the basic commandment to honor one another. Could you imagine how different our world would be if we actually treated each other this way? How much more love, joy and peace we could experience. I wonder why it is so difficult for us to honor one another?

I believe a huge part of this struggle is due to power, and the attempt to gain it over one another. This drive for power is a motive from fear, the opposite of love and faith. When we operate out of fear we negotiate our spirit and the life force of our spirit. We negotiate away our own power in this tug of war!

We can’t negotiate our spirit regardless of our fear or loneliness. For when we do we begin to lose our vitality, our happiness and motive to live. Eventually we resign and give up. Look around the world and see the herd of walking zombies living a shallow (and unhappy) life in some vain attempt to get money, sex, or power, thinking this is the road to happiness!

In this pursuit of happiness (when motiviated  out of our fear) we give our power away. So what do you do when you find yourself in a dead end job for the money? A loveless relationship for the sex or fear of being alone? Or perhaps someone took your power from you and you find yourself the victim of betrayal, abuse, lies, manipulation, or abandonment? You have two choices, you can continue to give up your power or you can “call your power back”. One you are dying and the other you are living.

CALL YOUR POWER BACK!

Now you are probably wondering how does one go about calling their power back? It starts by honoring one another, and even more specific HONORING YOURSELF. We are never truly victims unless we continue to chose to give our power away. By calling your power back and beginning to honor yourself, the outer world will respond to your inner choice.

We call our power back by letting go of resentments, letting go of judgments, letting go of our need to control, and forgiving those that have harmed us. THIS DOES NOT MEAN YOU ALLOW THEM TO CONTINUE TO MISTREAT YOU. You may need to cut some people out of your life and let them go if they don’t have enough self honor to honor you in return. If it is a relationship with someone you cannot let go of, such as a parent or sibling you need to learn how to set up healthy boundaries so you are no longer negotiating away your power.

Our relationships are the best opportunities to learn from, they are mirrors for us to see how we ourselves are and how we can improve. If you see you are not being honored or respected, take the first step and honor yourself, then call your power back! You are worth it, and deserve to experience more out of this life!

Stop Running Into the Wall

You notice that wall in front of you? You know the one you keep running into? No? Okay, have you noticed your head keeps hurting and can’t figure out why? It’s because you keep running into that wall! Open your eyes…ahhh, yes there you go. Now you see it. Wait…what are you doing? You are headed straight for it…again. Ouch! Don’t look at me like that, this time you knew. You saw the wall and still walked into it! Hey at least you know what the headache is from! You will probably keep running into it a few more times until you get so tired of the pain, you can’t take it anymore! Then at the depths of your frustration you will decide to stop walking into the wall and make a right hand turn.

I have been doing this. I have been running into the wall over and over again. I even got so conscious to realize I was doing it but I wasn’t tired of the pain just yet. You can’t judge me either. We all do this and we all continue to do it until we can’t take it any longer and this is when we decide to change.

We realize we can’t live one day longer doing the same thing and getting the same results and the only way to get a different result it to take a different action!

Sometimes life has a funny way of teaching us if we don’t ever change on our own. We see we are running into the wall, we feel the pain, but we get almost used to it. We expect this is just how life is…painful and there are no other choices to experience anything else. Stuck in the repetitive habit we run into that wall one more time, but this time the whole wall comes crashing down on top of you! Underneath all that rubble you wonder how you could experience so much pain and survive. Why did this have to happen to you? You are a good person and don’t deserve all this pain!

This is when God steps in and says it is finally time to stop running into the wall. I was hoping you would learn the easy way but you refused, so I had to show you it is really time to stop! You somehow struggle to pull yourself out from underneath and begin to brush yourself off and heal up.

This time you won’t run into the wall anymore. You know what it feels like when it all comes crashing down and if by chance you bump into it again you will quickly remember what it felt like and make a  fast right hand turn!

This is how we learn. Our intuition (or the spirit) guides us and we fill subtle promptings to stop doing something, some nagging feeling, some impression. But we ignore it thinking it is not so bad. We continue to see the results of our actions and realize it is not what we want but still continue in the behavior until we either can’t take it anymore and decide to change on our own. Or God intervenes and shows us by letting the hard lesson take its place and our whole world comes crashing down so we can no longer ignore what he was trying to teach us all along.

My friends, learn the easy way. Don’t do what I did and wait and wait and see the wall eventually come crashing down on top of you. We are being guided and you can feel it when you run into the wall. Trust your heart, trust your intuition and trust God. Act upon what you sense and you will be grateful you did!

My Human Race

Posted by on Nov 8, 2011 in Love, The Purpose of Life | 2 Comments

I feel defeated. I’ve been fighting a war and in this battle I have been defeated. I am constantly surprised to see what human beings are capable of doing to one another. We are monsters dressed in human skin, going around and bombing each other, murdering, raping, enslaving,  stealing, cheating and lying to one another. Sure we hear of these things in the news, in fact we have heard of it our whole lives. This is what almost every movie is based on and what every story book we read is about. All of history encompasses this sort of behavior. I am disgusted by my race, my human race. It is easy to place it far away from us, until you personally experience the ugliness of what we are capable of doing to one another. Then in this moment of misery, you wonder is life worth living when this is our world? When this is how we are and how we treat one another?

I live for love, I live for light, I live for good and what brings joy. I live to inspire. God knows I have compassion. I open my heart and believe in you, even when everyone else says not to. I have compassion and what happens? I seem to find myself on the burned side of things. Is this what compassion brings? Who was the most compassionate being to come to earth? Christ, and what did we do to him? We killed him. Is compassion a curse or a blessing?

What other choice do I have? What other options exist? Do I take my own life and leave this world even more saddened by my choice to kill myself? No. That is not an option that would only spread more pain. So the only other choice I have is to fight. To fight for good and hope I rally enough troops.

As long as I’m breathing this fight is worth fighting. Life is worth living even if I’m dying. I believe in the good. I believe we can be good.  I still believe in you. I still believe! All it comes down to is choice. We all have it within us both the good and the bad and all we do is choose. Choose to be good. Choose it! End the pain, end the heartache, end the misery, end the lies. Spread joy, spread peace, spread love and truth. I still believe in us. I still believe.

Be a Conscious Observer

Stop. Take a breath. Slow down and observe your life.  We may be stuck in a trap or a dead end but unless you stop to reflect you may not catch it.  Do you feel alive? Do you feel energized and excited for your life each day when you wake up? If not stop and take a look!

It is so easy to get caught up in one thing and then the next. Never stopping to see how this is working or not working for us.  Each day we spend our energy at our jobs, in our relationships, to our community and religions. What is the fruit of your labor? What is the payoff? Is what you are doing working for you? How do you spend your energy with your thoughts and judgments? How is the way you are seeing the world and yourself working for you?

All these things can suck up your energy and hold you back from fulfilling your purpose and experiencing joy and happiness. Take a look at your life. Reflect and observe what is working for you and what isn’t then have the courage to make a new choice!

What Really Matters?

Posted by on Sep 6, 2011 in The Purpose of Life, Uncategorized | No Comments

Let us get clear about what brings about results. ACTION! Taking action in your life is what will change your life. You want to feel happy, begin smiling. I promise you will begin to feel happier. You want to lose weight, eat healthier. You want to get a date, ask a girl out! ACTION PRODUCES RESULTS!

Not only does it apply to the here and now but let’s get spiritual for a moment. Or maybe we are going to get religious…depending on how you view things.

Many religions believe that after this life there will be a sort of judgment. Where we will stand before God and be evaluated according to how we lived our lives. Then depending on how well we did, we’ll either go to Heaven or be damned to H. E. Double Hockey Sticks! Doom! (This is a simplified version, but you get the gist.)

Now regardless of your spiritual or religious orientation and beliefs, just play along with me that the judgment scenario is true. We will get “up there” and God is going to ask us one question. Can you guess what that is going to be? I’m pretty sure it is not going to be “Tell me what you believed in your life?” or “Tell me what you thought about in your life?” He is going to ask something like, “What did you DO with the time you were given on Earth?” WHAT DID YOU DO?

I feel a little confused when I talk to others, especially within my own religion. I hear all sorts of people tell me their beliefs and testimonies with passion and vigor. Yet I see what they do and there is a disconnect. If you believe something is true, you better well live it! Because in the end you will be judged for your actions not your beliefs. And you are not going to be judged for other people’s actions just your own, so stop worrying about what other people think, do, and believe. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU AND YOUR HINDERED JUDGMENT.

Are you loving people more or are you judging them? Do you accept someone as they are or wish they would change so you could be happy? Do you see ways to be of service and do it out of the kindness of your heart or are you motivated by guilt? How are you showing up for others? Are you inspiring for good or do you leave people feeling like they are less than and unworthy? In the end my friends, if there is a judgment like so many religions preach of, I hope you understand it has nothing to do with what you actually believed in and everything to do with what you actually did. If you don’t agree with what I believe, that is totally fine, just go out there and do good, spread good, and bring joy to others. Keep striving to be the best version of yourself and where you walk leave some love and have faith everything else will end up okay. The point is to focus on yourself and  how you can improve, not on how others are living their lives.

If after reading all of this you are now judging me that I am too “out there” well I’m sorry, hahahaha you have missed the whole point! I, like the rest of you, am just doing my best. I strive to walk my talk, reach my potential, and inspire others to do the same. If I have ever left you feeling judged or unworthy during my life, I am sorry, and at this moment I am creating the possibility that I only leave you feeling loved and accepted.

When was the last time you took a risk?


Last year I enrolled myself in two beginning improvisational acting classes, not because I want to be an actor or anything like that but I just wanted to get out of my own head and do something I have never done before! I definitely didn’t master the art of improv, but I did have fun and felt a rush of adrenaline in every single class, and most of all laughed myself silly! It was worth every penny to take that risk (it looks like I am due for another risk, seeing as how this happened last year)!

There is something about taking risks that makes you feel alive. Risks are pretty simple you either win or lose: no question about it. The result is not really so important, but the act of actually taking the risk is where the reward lies.

When we take risks we get closer to reaching our heart’s desires. It doesn’t matter in what area you take a risk in either, taking risks leads to more risk taking. If you want to run a marathon but take a risk to travel to Europe by yourself, you also increase your chances to run that marathon. One risk increases the chances of actually doing the other. It gives us confidence to do something different. To challenge our previous paradigm of how we are and how we have to be.

When was the last time you took a risk? What do you want? You want to be an actor? You want to start a business? You want to get married? Great! Whatever it is go out and do anything that seems risky! Ask that pretty girl out, take that acting class, interview that CEO, do anything that requires courage. Get out there and do it! Even just the smaller risks will boost your confidence to take on the bigger ones! My friends as far as we know this life is it, what are you making of it? Are you excited? If not for Heaven’s sake do something different!

Let me tell you about my day…


At 8:30 a.m. I woke up and did some writing then meditated as I said some affirmations.  Fell asleep for another couple hours and re-got up at noon. I painted for a bit, and put up another painting up on my wall near my bed….it is a painting of outer space and looks awesome!

Then I drove out to Santa Monica dropped off an application for an additional year of grad school at USM. Ate a quick vegan snack at the Golden Mean Café then headed towards Pacific Palisades to this hike that overlooks the beach. While hiking I took off my shirt and let my white skin get some vitamin D. I didn’t care if my stomach was the skinniest stomach in LA, I was free and enjoying the smell of the ocean breeze. While hiking I attempted to flow/rap and laughed at myself at how un-smooth I sounded!

After getting to the top of the hike at the lookout point I sat down and enjoyed the view, I began thanking God for the opportunity to live here and then declared to the universe some plans for next year! I ran back down the hill scaring away the lizards as I ran, got to my car and drove to the beach to stretch out.

I then hit up 3rd street promenade and went shopping, buying myself a skirt and a few shirts…something to feel pretty in! Now I am back at the Golden Mean telling you about my day while enjoying a gluten free pizza (I haven’t had pizza in over four months since I decided not to eat gluten).

“Why is any of this information pertinent?” you may be wondering.

I am curious when was the last time you had a fun day? Nothing I had to do today was “important”, none of it had to be done today, but I chose to make a day for myself, a day of fun where I did exactly anything and everything I wanted in that moment.

When was that last time you did even one fun activity a day? Maybe you don’t need to take a whole day for yourself, but what about just one activity? How many of us are wasting away our lives at some job, wasting our time for money, to survive? What are you living for?

I know none of my activities today mean anything other than enjoyment but it adds to my vitality. It adds to my quality of life, it brings me joy and happiness, a feeling of peace. It brings out my creative juices and nothing makes me feel more alive than being creative!

I extend an invitation to you: do one thing tomorrow that you do just for fun. I promise you will not only have fun but feel a bit more rejuvenated to do the rest of your “survival” activities as well! Life is meant to be lived, so let’s begin living!

Stewardship

There is no great secret to success. I will tell you how to be successful right here and now.  It’s about your word, integrity.

This isn’t necessarily about being honest, or doing what is morally right (although both of these qualities will add to your character). I am talking about following through with what you say you will do, keeping your commitments to yourself, and being responsible.

It starts with the smallest actions. By small and simple things are great things brought to pass!

Once we can learn to be a master at small things we can then take on larger projects that require greater responsibilities.  Being a steward over one’s own life and mastering one little thing at a time gives us the confidence we can succeed.

It is not rocket science. It is about proving to yourself you know you can do what you say…following through with your word. Do you think you have the confidence to manage a company of you can’t manage keeping your room clean? Do you believe you can actually show up for work every day at your dream job if you don’t wake up when your alarm goes off? Can you ever lose those 30 pounds if you don’t say no to the cookies? Can you really have a happy marriage (“one day” when you meet that special woman) if you have yet to stay faithful to any of the previous girls you have dated? If doing your laundry is your week’s greatest challenge you need to take a look at yourself and your integrity!

Will you actually accept that next promising opportunity that plops into your lap when you have failed to fulfill on just the simple things in your life? This is why we so often stay hidden in the dark corners of life, afraid we will fail because we don’t do the little things and that destroys our self worth. WE LOSE FAITH IN OUR SELF AND OUR CAPABILITIES because how we show up in one area of our life is how we show up in almost every area of our life! It is called the microcosm of the macrocosm and consciously or unconsciously we are aware of this and act accordingly, scared to really shine.

When you fulfill with the simple things you build up your self-trust and self confidence that you know you can do what you say you will do! This in turn builds up your self worth which gives you the courage to take big action.

Having integrity is simple. Just do what you say. If you can’t do it don’t commit to it to begin with.  A life of excellence doesn’t just happen overnight, it is years of accumulated commitments met, time after time on your word, starting with the most simple actions.

The steps to living with integrity are:

1.) Pay attention to the words you speak.

2.) Say only things you actually intend to do.

3.) Keep your word and watch your excellent life begin.

There it is: the secret to success, and although it sounds simple it brings about great results, remember by small and simple things are great things brought to pass!

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